Comments on: Wicked Witches I can handle…

By: Mina

Mina — Wed, 26 Nov 2008 20:53:28 +0000

I hate how psychologists are quick to tell you you need to let it go in order to move on. Well, maybe that is true, but sometimes you can’t just let some things go. And that’s ok. That just means things can’t be repaired and you need to move on.

I too went through one failed relationship after another. I too became quite independent and didn’t think I could count on anyone. I too did everything. But you know what, one day, someone does walk into your world that suddenly makes you want to need and you do need them. Now, there are still times where I am insanely independent, and this has hurt my submission, but I need Sylvanus very much in my life and it helps knowing I can lean on him for anything.

By: Ms. Florida Transplant

Ms. Florida Transplant — Tue, 25 Nov 2008 01:59:35 +0000

I wish there was an easy answer for this. The unknown is scary, but even scarier is wondering “what if” 30 years later. It is important to try to forget the past and focus on WHY you’re unhappy, then determine if those things can be improved upon in your current situation.

By: darkfairymomma

darkfairymomma — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:19:06 +0000

*sings* It’s your post and you comment if you want to i think the crux of your situation is that last sentence and, unfortunately, there’s no way to look into the future. So, then it’s a matter of staying with the security of what you already know or taking a leap and seeing where you land. i wish i had an answer but i’m sure you’ll figure something out in time *hugs*

By: Lori

Lori — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 19:02:27 +0000

Guess what, you’re totally normal. These are all the fears we all go through when making this decision. It feels like quitting when we said “til death do us part” so you question whether you really should be leaving.

I can only speak from my personal experience but as scary as it is, as many times as we tried to work it out, it just wasn’t going to happen. When I finally said those words “I want a divorce” and didn’t back down it was amazing the weight that was lifted. I’d find myself smiling in the car on the way to work for no other reason than the relief of being free.

For me, its been five years and I’m fighting that battle of being ‘too self sufficient’. In terms of the necessities, I provide for myself and I do it pretty well I think. The guy that will come into my life will have to add to it in more intangible but more meaningful ways. Friendship and love and communication.

I’m finding that if you enjoy who you are, others will enjoy it too. If they don’t, then you need to look at minimizing their role in your life. There is no shame in wanting love and respect in your life. That is NOT unreasonable.

Its not for nothing, its for a whole lot of new possibilities. Taking back your life and steering in a direction that you want to go in.

Sorry, hope that helps and wasn’t too long winded.

By: ExPrincess

ExPrincess — Mon, 24 Nov 2008 18:51:36 +0000

Is it wrong to comment on my own post?

Sorry about the rambling… I had organized thoughts on this once, but something made them all disorganized.