Comments on: Epilogue http://fairytalesend.com/2009/01/epilogue/ A princess's journey into life after ever after isn't happy Thu, 21 Jan 2010 12:35:34 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0.4 By: O http://fairytalesend.com/2009/01/epilogue/comment-page-1/#comment-35 O Wed, 21 Jan 2009 23:04:41 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=34#comment-35 I think that without loving yourself, or even just being able tolerate yourself, that it puts a very big anchor on you when you try to love others. And that's not blame being put on either side in how you fell out of love with yourself. Sometimes these things just happen. I think the therapy will help you cut the anchor loose and hopefully he follows suit to aid you in the healing process as a friend. The idle words of an author in a book will not help that, but the customized words of a friend will. You know where to find me. :-) <strong><em> I keep reminding myself that it's ok to feel good about me, it's hard when I know I had to hurt someone else to get here. And he's hurting, I see it when I look at him. When I don't think about that I'm begining to see in me the person I once like, who knows maybe I will love her again. </em></strong> I think that without loving yourself, or even just being able tolerate yourself, that it puts a very big anchor on you when you try to love others. And that’s not blame being put on either side in how you fell out of love with yourself. Sometimes these things just happen. I think the therapy will help you cut the anchor loose and hopefully he follows suit to aid you in the healing process as a friend. The idle words of an author in a book will not help that, but the customized words of a friend will. You know where to find me. :-)

I keep reminding myself that it’s ok to feel good about me, it’s hard when I know I had to hurt someone else to get here. And he’s hurting, I see it when I look at him. When I don’t think about that I’m begining to see in me the person I once like, who knows maybe I will love her again.

]]> By: Mina http://fairytalesend.com/2009/01/epilogue/comment-page-1/#comment-34 Mina Wed, 21 Jan 2009 20:43:25 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=34#comment-34 He told you to read "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus"?!?! OMG... You know what? I read that when I was like in my teens to see if it would improve my relationship... it didn't. *sigh* That was one of the hard parts... of actually saying something. Things will get rough, but hopefully the support of your friends will make things better. <strong><em>Thank you, I know that men and women process things differently, I don't see how one book will fix 14 years of problems. I'm lucky to have the friends I do to lean on for support and to keep me focused on me.</em></strong> He told you to read “Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus”?!?! OMG… You know what? I read that when I was like in my teens to see if it would improve my relationship… it didn’t. *sigh* That was one of the hard parts… of actually saying something. Things will get rough, but hopefully the support of your friends will make things better.

Thank you, I know that men and women process things differently, I don’t see how one book will fix 14 years of problems. I’m lucky to have the friends I do to lean on for support and to keep me focused on me.

]]> By: Sylvanus http://fairytalesend.com/2009/01/epilogue/comment-page-1/#comment-33 Sylvanus Wed, 21 Jan 2009 14:48:57 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=34#comment-33 *hugs* This is tough, because there are so many things one could say here, and all of them need to be said, but it's impossible know what to say first. I've been through that moment, as the person initiating the divorce. It takes enormous courage, brings enormous relief and sorrow, leaves one sad, but brings a sliver of hope. A tremendously difficult phase has begun, but it is something that needs to be done. It feels impossible to be understood, and you don't even know if that's what you want. Take care of yourself, and reach out as much as possible to others. I will be thinking of you. <strong><em>Thank you, I do feel like the worse is behind but there is more ahead of me. I guess this is the eye of the storm. I'll scream out if I feel like I'm drowning, no more trying to do it all on my own. I have a good network of people who have been there, I'm grateful for them</em></strong> *hugs*

This is tough, because there are so many things one could say here, and all of them need to be said, but it’s impossible know what to say first.

I’ve been through that moment, as the person initiating the divorce. It takes enormous courage, brings enormous relief and sorrow, leaves one sad, but brings a sliver of hope. A tremendously difficult phase has begun, but it is something that needs to be done. It feels impossible to be understood, and you don’t even know if that’s what you want.

Take care of yourself, and reach out as much as possible to others. I will be thinking of you.

Thank you, I do feel like the worse is behind but there is more ahead of me. I guess this is the eye of the storm. I’ll scream out if I feel like I’m drowning, no more trying to do it all on my own. I have a good network of people who have been there, I’m grateful for them

]]> By: Singlegal http://fairytalesend.com/2009/01/epilogue/comment-page-1/#comment-32 Singlegal Wed, 21 Jan 2009 13:30:20 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=34#comment-32 Hang in there, P. Honestly, reading your post jarred so many of my own feelings and memories from my marriage. I will admit that I played the role of your husband - Ostrich - head in the sand. But, I'm glad to see you taking the steps you need to take. It's going to be an adjustment period for both of you. Hang in there and know that I'm just a phone call or tweet away. <strong><em> Thank you, I told the boss and the co-worker who covers for me. I need to get work done but I hope to have a name of a lawyer before the end of the day. It's hard for me to be selfish and to hurt someone intentionally and that is exactly what I have to do. Expect phone calls and visits and "I need retail therapy NOW!" kind of outings.</em></strong> Hang in there, P. Honestly, reading your post jarred so many of my own feelings and memories from my marriage. I will admit that I played the role of your husband – Ostrich – head in the sand. But, I’m glad to see you taking the steps you need to take. It’s going to be an adjustment period for both of you. Hang in there and know that I’m just a phone call or tweet away.

Thank you, I told the boss and the co-worker who covers for me. I need to get work done but I hope to have a name of a lawyer before the end of the day. It’s hard for me to be selfish and to hurt someone intentionally and that is exactly what I have to do. Expect phone calls and visits and “I need retail therapy NOW!” kind of outings.

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