Comments on: Always His Princess http://fairytalesend.com/2009/05/always-his-princess/ A princess's journey into life after ever after isn't happy Thu, 21 Jan 2010 12:35:34 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Singlegal http://fairytalesend.com/2009/05/always-his-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-83 Singlegal Wed, 06 May 2009 12:31:58 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=71#comment-83 There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with accepting help when you need it, especially from the people who love you most. Personally, I did everything I could not to take help from my parents. They never made me feel this way, but I couldn't help but feel like such a failure to them. And in my mind's eyes, the "gifts" they had given me - help with my house, my wedding - had just been negated and I imagine they must have been disappointed. I still feel this was my "one chance" at that sort of start and that thanks to Ex, I blew it. So, from here on in, it's me and all me. And it's not easy, but it's OK. Not for everyone, but I guess for me it makes me feel a tad better about everything. Good luck in your apartment search. <strong><em>It's not like I've ever been able to say no to them when it comes to their generosity. I do feel like I disappointed them, but at the same time they know the amount of strength it has taken me to get out of a bad situation and want to lessen my burden a little. They can't take any of the emotional load off of me, so they help financially. I'm sure if I had a child I would do the same for them.</em></strong> There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with accepting help when you need it, especially from the people who love you most. Personally, I did everything I could not to take help from my parents. They never made me feel this way, but I couldn’t help but feel like such a failure to them. And in my mind’s eyes, the “gifts” they had given me – help with my house, my wedding – had just been negated and I imagine they must have been disappointed. I still feel this was my “one chance” at that sort of start and that thanks to Ex, I blew it. So, from here on in, it’s me and all me. And it’s not easy, but it’s OK. Not for everyone, but I guess for me it makes me feel a tad better about everything.
Good luck in your apartment search.

It’s not like I’ve ever been able to say no to them when it comes to their generosity. I do feel like I disappointed them, but at the same time they know the amount of strength it has taken me to get out of a bad situation and want to lessen my burden a little. They can’t take any of the emotional load off of me, so they help financially. I’m sure if I had a child I would do the same for them.

]]> By: ella http://fairytalesend.com/2009/05/always-his-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-82 ella Wed, 06 May 2009 12:22:03 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=71#comment-82 Don't feel guilty about accepting their help. Why? For all the reasons you already know - they love you, and they can. Plain and simple. I would strongly caution that you continue to NOT tell the prince about the financial assistance they may/will be giving you. That could screw you in the end with any settlement agreement stuff. plus - it's just none of his d**m business! <strong><em>I am getting over the initial guilt or feeling like this is a sign of weakness. I have no plans on telling him where I got the money for the lawyer and the apartment, he is smart enough to put two and two together.</em></strong> Don’t feel guilty about accepting their help. Why? For all the reasons you already know – they love you, and they can. Plain and simple. I would strongly caution that you continue to NOT tell the prince about the financial assistance they may/will be giving you. That could screw you in the end with any settlement agreement stuff. plus – it’s just none of his d**m business!

I am getting over the initial guilt or feeling like this is a sign of weakness. I have no plans on telling him where I got the money for the lawyer and the apartment, he is smart enough to put two and two together.

]]> By: mina http://fairytalesend.com/2009/05/always-his-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-81 mina Wed, 06 May 2009 00:59:24 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=71#comment-81 sometimes we all need a little help to get on our feet again. Nothing wrong with that and it sounds like they are happy to do it. take it as a blessing... I certainly did when my mom and her husband offered us a gift of money for the wedding. we greatly appreciate the help. <strong><em>I am slowly coming to terms with this. I know that I have to make some concessions, things like traveling to see friends like I had hoped, will wait until I can afford them without their money also major decisions like where I will live and even buying new furniture, I will talk to them first. I know I will forever be their little girl.</em></strong> sometimes we all need a little help to get on our feet again. Nothing wrong with that and it sounds like they are happy to do it. take it as a blessing… I certainly did when my mom and her husband offered us a gift of money for the wedding. we greatly appreciate the help.

I am slowly coming to terms with this. I know that I have to make some concessions, things like traveling to see friends like I had hoped, will wait until I can afford them without their money also major decisions like where I will live and even buying new furniture, I will talk to them first. I know I will forever be their little girl.

]]> By: Jan @ Struck by Serendipity http://fairytalesend.com/2009/05/always-his-princess/comment-page-1/#comment-80 Jan @ Struck by Serendipity Tue, 05 May 2009 18:31:39 +0000 http://fairytalesend.wordpress.com/?p=71#comment-80 I think it's normal to feel bad about your parents helping you out financially...even if they can easily afford it. Being financially independent is important to me, so I would rather take a second job than accept "loans" for things I can't truly afford. If you don't struggle....you don't get stronger. Just my 2 cents. <strong><em>If this was something like a new computer or sewing machine I would agree with you. This is a new life. I've been struggling for years and money is a big thing keeping me from leaving here. My father wants me to be happy, that's all he's ever wanted and all he can do to help me be happy is to help me in this way. If the economy was different, if we could sell the house quickly, if The Prince had a job, I probably wouldn't need this help.</em></strong> I think it’s normal to feel bad about your parents helping you out financially…even if they can easily afford it. Being financially independent is important to me, so I would rather take a second job than accept “loans” for things I can’t truly afford.

If you don’t struggle….you don’t get stronger.

Just my 2 cents.

If this was something like a new computer or sewing machine I would agree with you. This is a new life. I’ve been struggling for years and money is a big thing keeping me from leaving here. My father wants me to be happy, that’s all he’s ever wanted and all he can do to help me be happy is to help me in this way. If the economy was different, if we could sell the house quickly, if The Prince had a job, I probably wouldn’t need this help.

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